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Start by defining exactly what it is that you really want in life?
You have immense potential for personal growth, but if you’re standing at the threshold of change, you might be confused about how to achieve greater confidence, self-awareness and maturity. Perhaps you’re feeling frustrated or ‘stuck’ in life or are trapped in a tough situation that, despite your best efforts, remains insoluble. There may be only one problematic area of your life such as an unhappy relationship with someone in your family or an unreasonable employer but if you cannot resolve an isolated but persistent problem, it can easily ‘leak’ to another area of your life; your job for example, might make you irritable or unapproachable at home, or so undermine your confidence that you withdraw from others. When you’re really stuck, every area of your life begins to feel like a prison, you may find yourself daydreaming about running away, and real growth becomes even harder.
How do you feel about Change?
It’s natural to cling to things that are familiar. When things are going reasonably well, it is easy to fall into the comfort zone trap and when you are in your comfort zone then one may ask themselves “ why change?” You may even fear and imagine that anything different might mean that things will go wrong, so why rock the boat.
But what about changing for the better? A fair question to ask. Wouldn’t it be something to look forward to? The answer for many is, not necessarily. For some facing any change of circumstances, can be daunting, because it means they have to move beyond what is familiar.
Real growth demands genuine commitment, which is sometimes difficult to sustain over a long period of time.
Have you ever had a pattern of hopeful, bright ideas followed by disappointment and lethargy? Everyone who has experienced a setback knows how this feels, so you’re not alone, perhaps you need to consider the possibility that you might be trapped by your own beliefs or unconscious expectations that you don’t deserve to be happy.
The best way to break out of this cycle is to start defining your goals. As children we always had that dream of receiving that special present for Christmas or for Birthdays.
Our imagination often went wild. Our focus remained on the thing that we dreamed about, the thing that we wanted most. Most children don’t take the word “NO” as an answer and they persist until they get what they want.
Most of the time they succeed.
Unfortunately as we grow up we tend to allow the word “NO” to be accepted the first time it is said to us. Not only do we accept it readily, we occasionally, hear it in our minds before we even attempt to achieve our goal.
Many of us, as adults, struggle to establish clear goals; specific outcomes that will enhance our lives and allow us individuality to flourish. Daydreaming about a new life might be a clue to your hopes and aspirations, but devising a step-by-step plan is an invaluable tool for getting yourself out of a rut.
Time for Transformation
Once your eyes are opened to your own potential for growth and glimpsed how much more life can offer, you will want to take risks and make changes to soar into a whole new world of possibilities.
Perhaps the best way to get motivated is to look for inspiration to someone you think has grown in ways that you respect and admire, an effective technique known as ‘modelling’
No matter what your intended activity or arena for growth is work, relationships or personal expression-it’s very helpful to bear in mind that many successful people have probably known failure even if they are unwilling to admit it, eventually they achieved their goals because they had four important qualities.