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It is of utmost importance that you become aware of the words you use when conversing with your child.  Your choice of words helps to direct your child’s thoughts.  You need to remember that your words are a verbal expression of your thoughts and feelings.  A good rule to remember is; the last words your child hears create images in his/her mind, and that is what he/she will act upon.  The images that the words evoke are more important than the worlds themselves.

Children receive a lot of mixed messages, which cause confusion when your verbal instructions don’t accurately reflect the behaviour you are seeking from your child.

‘Be careful what you ask…. for you might get it’

For example:  One mother called out to her son Johnny, as he ran on a wet path chasing his sister.  “Don’t run” called his mother.  Johnny stopped for a few seconds and then with his task of catching his sister foremost in his mind he took off again at even greater speed.  I said, “Don’t run,” shouted the mother.  Johnny did exactly the same thing stopped for a few seconds and once again took off at a greater speed. In frustration his mother grumbled ‘Won’t that child learn?’

The Answer is:  He will learn, but it will happen more quickly if he were told what to do instead of what not to do.  Had his mother called out ‘Johnny please walk” she would have been much more likely to have evoked a positive response.  By calling her son’s name first she would have grabbed his attention and then he would have heard a positive instruction.  The unconscious mind does not understand a negative command hence it by-passes the word ‘don’t and it only hears the word ‘run’

Children need correct behavioural information to act appropriately because whatever information they receive they are bound to act upon. 

For more information about this topic and to learn more bout Effective positive parenting consider the ‘Parents’ Mind Magic Work Book Program’   In this program you will discover:

• What is Mind Magic?    
• Persistence is the Key 
• Be aware – The Power of Your Words
• Are you Conscious of your Parenting Style?    
• What you Believe ….you Can Achieve    
• Society Today
• The Power of Affirmations
• How to become your Children’s Emotional Coach
• How to Eliminating Negative Thoughts

It is amazing the children when giving hem instruction