Why do some excel at school, show, show responsibility and respect and from up well adjusted loving human beings and yet their brother(s) or sister(s) may hate going to school, have learning problems, show no respect, are hostile, bully and display other problematic behaviour, and grow up indifferent to society?

These burning questions have haunted many parents for decades.  Many parents have said to me " I love them all the same way, and I treat them all the same way I just don't understand".  Some of these parents look for answers by justifying, lay blame on the child, themselves and others trying to alleviate their pain and anguish.

So what is the answer or answers to this question?

The truth is the answers are entwined in the intricacy of the way we parent the children.  We may parent the children the same wa7y, however what is often forgotten is that children are not all the same and they interpret our parenting differently.  It's for this reason that parents need to develop an acute sense of perception.  There are many resources available to help parents develop what they need to enjoy the rewards of parenting and we hope to introduce uou to many of the resources through the Lifestyle Plus Centre website.

To read more and know more about this and other topics go to www.lifestylepluscentre.com and down this free E book:  'Effective Positive Parenting'.  In this E book you will discover valuable information

Effective Positive Parenting ebook

This E Book contains a treasure trove of information relating to:

• Why children from the same family can turn out so differently from each other
• A good foundation
• Security
• Independence
• Gender Roles
• Discipline
• Love and Protection
• Conformity
• Self worth v self esteem
• Over control protectors
• Under control protectors

Positive parenting is the process of disciplining, promoting and supporting the physical, social, emotional and intellectual development of your child. It is very important that we discipline our child in such a way that it teaches them responsibility. We can do this by motivating them internally; building their self esteem and make them feel loved and appreciated. As they grow they will not have a need to turn into drugs, gangs, sex to feel that they belong.

Spending Quality Time with Your Child
Your child’s development and self esteem is greatly affected by the quality of time you spend with them not the amount or quantity. You may be there by her side but you are not actually listening or hearing what your child is saying. You have to give your whole attention to your child and not pretending to do otherwise, or they’ll end up misbehaving.

Make Your Child Realize the Committed Mistake
We can’t avoid the fact that our children will try to test us using their tantrums, being angry or speaking to us disrespectfully. If this happens, try not to get angry or shout back, it is best if you leave or tell your child that you are just there if he wants to "try again." Remember, do not leave in anger or defeat, in this way your child will realize what he’s done and he will try to correct it.

Separate the Deed from the Doer Never tell your child that he is bad, that would surely lows down his morale. Help your child understand that it isn’t he that you don’t like but his behavior that you are not willing to tolerate. For a child to keep his self esteem, he must know that he is loved no matter what he does. Do not motivate your child by saying that you will not love him if he does something wrong. When in doubt, ask yourself: "Did my discipline affect my child in a negative way?"

Be Consistent
If you have made an agreement with your child not to buy candy when you go in the store, be consistent and never give in to hear tantrums and pleas. Be reminded also that you have to be in agreement with your partner. You have to fill in your partner in some things that you prohibit your child from doing in that way you will have a common stand. There are times that the mother will prohibit something and the father would allow. This is not a good example as the child will tend to make choices between his parents.